My phone alerted me to that I had just received a message on OKC from a user named “CallMeBigPoppa” and my heart sank. I knew nothing good could come of this. And it turns out that that intuition was completely right. I opened my webpage and read this first message, already knowing that it wasn’t going to be the intelligent, thoughtful, thought-provoking message that I crave.
I was over it at this point. Yet another man on OKC wanting to let me know that I exist as a sexual object for his enjoyment? It seems like I had just been contacted by one… a few hours ago. How sad is that a man can’t even send a message to a woman that he finds attractive without treating her like she’s not even a human being; just a body that came into existence so he could jack off to photos of it.
He stopped messaging me after this. Clearly, a woman that realizes how badly men treat them and isn’t afraid to talk back was too much for him to handle.
So I went over his profile. I wanted to know what in the world would possess a person to treat a fellow human being to act like this and be so completely oblivious. What I found was that he is actually one of the most horrible people that I have ever seen on OKC. And really, that’s pretty profound coming from me. Here are just a few of the things on his profile that we disagreed on.
Well, okay then. He doesn’t think that contraception is okay and doesn’t carry condoms. But he must realize that unwanted pregnancies are going to happen and be open to women exercising their bodily autonomy and ending said pregnancies, right?
So women are just baby machines that can’t have sex without the threat of pregnancy and then must have babies once their Natural Family Planning fails? Nice to know.
At least he’s not unintelligent though, right? I mean, he can’t really be as vapid as he makes himself out to be.
Right…. No intellectual conversations. Those make up most of what I do on dates. Are we supposed to talk about the weather the entire time?
Okay, so fat people can’t be sexy. He didn’t even pick the “sometimes” option. He just went for a flat no. Also, I looked at his one photo and he’s a strong 3. If you’re going to be so judgemental about people based on their looks, you might want to make sure your A-game is being brought. Cause in his photo, he looks a little big himself. Can’t tell if it’s just his poorly-chosen shirt or his actual torso that’s so large and he provided no other photos. But yeah.
Okay, so he he believes in eugenics. Which, again, based on his self-professed loathing of intelligence and his inability to know that the Sun is bigger than the Earth, maybe he shouldn’t be so quick to speak.
Well, who would have thought this, but my visible panty line comes with a side of bipolar. The term “mental illness” here is not thoroughly defined. Mental illness has a huge range in how it affects people and relationships. But Big Poppa doesn’t care about any of that. He doesn’t want any part of mental illness, no matter how minor or easy it is to deal with.
Well, if he can’t even manage compassion for himself, then how is he supposed to manage it for anyone else?
Sure, he dislikes intelligence, but science is essential to our everyday lives as well as to technology and our world. So at least he appreciates that.Okay, so no on that one. I mean, what were we really expecting when he didn’t know the Sun was bigger than the Earth? Siri can tell you that. A quick trip to Google can tell you that. Third grade science class can tell you that.
Wow, and apparently someone can be obligated to have sex. He doesn’t describe the circumstances, but putting that thought out there is just more of his entitlement to women and their bodies.This just strikes me as he doesn’t give a shit what his partner enjoys in bed. He’s all in it for his pleasure. And face it, if she’s obligated to have sex with him, then how much is she really going to enjoy it anyway?
Right. Masturbation. Something most human beings do, regardless of their relationship status. That’s not okay? That’s a cause for concern? Would that hurt his ego somehow? Does he consider this immoral? What’s going on here?
So no kissing on the first date. None. The man who sends me a first message saying that he wants to perform oral sex on me would never kiss on the first date. How does that make any sense?
What kind of person would believe this?
He self-identifies as a Christian and a conservative. Right.
Until next time. Keep your web browsers refreshed and your standards low. This isn’t the love of your life that you’re finding. These are the Men of OKC.
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